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Heal anyway: A guide to surviving family drama and bad decisions

Lucian Vale returns to Marrow’s End after seven years, expecting apologies that never come. His mother believes she’s a saint, his father thinks he deserves a medal, and his ex still makes him weak in the knees. Armed with sarcasm, whiskey, and questionable life choices, Lucian must heal—not for them, but for himself.

Heal Anyway: A Guide to Surviving Family Drama and Bad Decisions

How does a town keep its secrets?

Marrow’s End is a town where secrets don’t die; they just get passed down like bad genetics. The streets hum with gossip, the trees lean in like nosy aunts, and even the cobblestones look judgmental.

It is autumn, and the air is thick with nostalgia and wood smoke—just enough to trick Lucian into thinking coming home was a good idea. Spoiler: It wasn’t.

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What happens when your mother is always right?

Lucian Vale stands at the doorstep of his childhood home, rethinking every decision that led to this moment.

His mother, Agatha Vale, opens the door with an expression that can only be described as ‘I told you so.’

“You didn’t call.”

Ah yes, motherly affection at its finest.

The living room is a shrine to beige and passive aggression. The air smells like tea and disappointment.

“You look well,” she finally says, which is mother-code for you look tired and emotionally unstable.

Lucian sighs. “I thought… maybe we should talk.”

Agatha takes a slow sip of her tea. “About what?”

And that is when it hits him: She will never say sorry. Ever.

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What is the price of a father’s approval?

Richard Vale walks in, gives Lucian a nod, and proceeds to say nothing. Classic dad move.

Dinner is an exercise in patience.

“So, what is new?” his father asks, somewhere between a grunt and a question.

Lucian pokes at his overcooked chicken. “Therapy.”

A pause. Then a grunt. Then, “You always were sensitive.”

Lucian takes a deep breath and resists the urge to launch his fork at the wall. “Maybe I wouldn’t need therapy if home hadn’t felt like a reality show without cameras.”

Richard frowns, genuinely confused. “I gave you everything.”

Translation: I put food on the table, what more do you want?

Lucian realizes something important: His father will never see the problem, because to him, there isn’t one.

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Is it possible to hate someone and still want to kiss them?

Later that night, Lucian finds himself in front of Dust & Spine Bookshop. And there she is—Juliette Moreau, the ghost of past mistakes.

“You are back,” she says, because obviously, hes is standing right there.

She smells like coffee and old books. His two greatest weaknesses.

She invites him in. There is whiskey. There’s candlelight. There’s the unspoken tension of two people who never stopped wanting each other.

“You’re still waiting, aren’t you?” she whispers, fingers tracing his jaw.

“For what?”

“For them to fix what they broke.”

And then, words become irrelevant. Hands learn old patterns. Lips press. Clothes become optional. Healing can wait—right now, he just wants to get lost in her.


What happens when closure is a myth?

The next morning, Juliette sips her coffee and smirks. “You know they won’t change, right?”

Lucian stares at his cup like it holds the answers to life. “Then why does it still hurt?”

“Because you’re waiting for people who don’t think they did anything wrong.”

That night, Lucian stands by the river, tossing a letter into the water. It’s not for them. It is for him. Healing isn’t about getting apologies—it is about moving on.


What if it is too late?

The phone rings. A car crash. His father.

At the hospital, his mother clutches his hand for the first time in years. “He’s gone.”

Lucian waits for the grief to feel like closure. It doesn’t.

That night, he sits on the rooftop, drinking whiskey from a paper cup, whispering to the stars. “I heal for me.”

For the first time, he actually believes it.


The final question

Who are you waiting on to apologise? And what will it take for you to heal without it?


Frequently Asked Questions

Q: How do you heal when someone won’t apologise?
A: Stop waiting for their words and start acting for yourself. Healing is your responsibility.

Q: Can sarcasm really help with emotional pain?
A: Absolutely. If you can’t laugh at the absurdity of life, you’re missing out.

Q: Is forgiveness necessary for healing?
A: No. Closure comes from within, not from their guilt.
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heal. your mom may never apologize to you, because she has conditioned herself to believe that she did right by you. she hasn't healed. heal anyway. your father may never apologize to you, because he can only see what he's done right. he hasn't healed. your family members may never apologize to you, because toxicity is what they were raised on. they haven't healed. heal anyway. that "friend" may never apologize to you, because he/she isn't sorry. he/she hasn't healed. if/when they reach their healing, they may seek your forgiveness. be so healed that it won't even matter. heal for you. you owe yourself that much.

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Tushar Mangl - Healer & Author of Ardika and I Will Do It. Writes on personal finance, Vastu, mental health, food, leisure, and a greener, better society.

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