Modern men are drowning in silence. Between emotional repression and societal pressures, many have forgotten how to feel, love, and lead with gentle strength. This article offers a raw, human roadmap for healing the masculine soul—balancing power with presence, emotion with courage, and reclaiming your inner warrior. A must-read for those ready to feel again.
First Published on 11/07/2007 14:09
Second revised edition -Published on 07/07/2025 15:26
What’s the problem with guys today?
The problem with guys today isn’t that they’re too emotional or not emotional enough—it’s that they’ve been taught to hide. Hide their feelings. Hide their fears. Hide their wounds. We've raised generations of men who believe silence is strength, stoicism is the goal, and tenderness is weakness. And where has it led us?
We now have boardrooms full of emotionally detached leaders. Households filled with partners who love but feel unseen. Friendships where “I’m good” replaces vulnerable conversation. And most of all, inner worlds of men locked in emotional solitary confinement.
As a man, I’ve been there too. I once thought “feeling too much” was the problem. That if I just became tougher, harder, more “alpha,” the world would stop hurting. But it wasn’t the world—it was me. Or more accurately, the version of me that I built to survive, not to thrive.
Let me say this clearly: you were never too much. You were never too soft. You were just told that love, grief, softness, and sadness belonged in someone else’s story.
The real issue? Emotional repression. And it’s costing men their health, their joy, and their relationships. Studies have shown that men are four times more likely to die by suicide than women—largely due to isolation, internalised shame, and lack of emotional outlets. This isn’t a coincidence. It’s a crisis.
We need a new definition of masculinity—one that includes crying, creating, resting, protecting, holding, leading, and receiving. One where being a warrior doesn’t mean dominating others, but standing present with your own truth.
And if you're nodding while reading this? It means you're ready.
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There’s something deeply off in the modern male experience—and no, it’s not about men being too sensitive, too angry, too lost, or too emotional. The real issue?
They have been forced to live outside of themselves.
From the moment a boy shows the “wrong” feelings—tears, fear, tenderness—he’s nudged, shamed, or outright punished into silence. Not just by parents or teachers, but by a whole culture. Over time, he learns: don’t cry. Don’t soften. Don’t ask. Don’t feel. Just “be a man.”
So what does he do?
He builds armour. Becomes tough, competent, “chill.” Maybe successful, maybe not. But inside? There’s a kind of quiet ache. A flatness. A numbness.
He doesn’t feel safe showing weakness—not even to himself.
He doesn’t know how to name what he feels—let alone communicate it.
He performs masculinity instead of embodying it.
And here’s the real kicker: he doesn’t know this is happening.
He just knows he feels… disconnected. From his partner. From his kids. From his art. From himself.
This is the problem with guys today. Not laziness. Not entitlement. Not “fragility.” But the cost of centuries of emotional compression, cultural distortion, and father wounds passed down like heirlooms.
We’re living in a time when men are dying more by suicide than in war. When heart disease and addiction and quiet desperation are stealing lives long before death does. And the answer isn’t more success or better abs or hustle culture.
The answer is reclamation.
We need to bring back the whole man—the feeling, breathing, yearning, angry, grieving, loving, creative, broken, powerful man. The one who doesn’t dominate others because he’s too busy leading himself.
If you’ve ever felt something was missing, but couldn’t quite name it—this is it.
Is masculinity still confused with aggression?
Somewhere along the way, “masculinity” got hijacked. Instead of being synonymous with presence, protection, and purpose, it got replaced with dominance, aggression, and emotional suppression.
But here’s the thing. Anger isn’t inherently bad. In fact, it’s a compass. The problem is most men have only been allowed to feel one emotion—anger—while everything else gets buried. Sad? Get angry. Scared? Get angry. Lonely? You guessed it: anger again.
And the media doesn’t help. From action heroes who barely speak but shoot everything in sight, to dating coaches teaching men to “play cold,” the message is loud: Power equals control. Control equals love.
Spoiler alert: it doesn’t.
I remember working with a client—let’s call him Rishi—who said, “I haven’t cried since I was 15.” He was 39. Married, with kids. But emotionally? Still frozen in that moment a teenage boy was told, “Stop crying, boys don’t cry.” Over time, his anger became explosive, his marriage strained, his soul exhausted.
When he finally did cry, he sobbed for three hours. Not just for what he had lost, but for the years he spent pretending nothing hurt.
Aggression is often grief in disguise. Rage is unprocessed fear. Control is the mask worn by deep insecurity.
And here's the sacred truth: real strength is in being fully present with your emotion, without letting it control you.
Imagine if more men were taught how to feel instead of fight. What if strength meant holding space—not wielding force? That’s the new masculinity rising. That’s the gentle warrior awakening.
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Masculinity has been having a bit of an identity crisis.
Turn on the news, scroll through social media, or sit through a Hollywood blockbuster, and what do you see? Men fighting. Men yelling. Men seducing. Men dominating.
Rarely do you see men nurturing. Or grieving. Or holding presence without posturing.
That’s the problem.
We’ve confused power with aggression, courage with control, and leadership with ego.
And the tragedy is that many men internalise these messages so deeply, they don’t even realise they’re acting out of fear—not strength.
Ask a man how he expresses anger and he’ll probably tell you one of two things:
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He explodes—raising his voice, slamming doors, drinking too much.
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He implodes—retreating, avoiding, numbing, scrolling endlessly.
Neither is healthy. Neither is rooted in wholeness. But both are understandable—because when you’ve never been taught to name or process emotions, you grab onto the loudest one society permits: rage.
It’s the only emotion many men still feel “allowed” to express.
But aggression isn’t power. It’s often just unprocessed grief with nowhere to go.
I once worked with a man who hadn’t cried since he was ten. He was 42. The first time he allowed himself to release, he broke down over something simple—his dog licking his hand while he was anxious. That moment cracked him open.
“I always thought I had to be angry to be taken seriously,” he told me. “But now I realise… the strongest I’ve ever been was when I finally let myself feel.”
This is sacred masculine energy.
Not loud. Not cold. Not posturing.
It’s present.
Grounded.
Clear.
We’re not asking men to stop being strong. We’re asking them to stop equating emotional violence with strength. Because true masculinity? It has nothing to prove.
It doesn’t destroy. It protects.
What happened to the gentle leader archetype?
Not long ago, the most revered men in many societies weren’t those who shouted the loudest or flexed the hardest—they were the gentle leaders. The tribal elders, warrior-poets, medicine men, and wise kings. These were men who led with heart, held their communities, wept in ceremony, and wielded swords only when necessary.
So… where did they go?
Colonialism, patriarchy, industrialisation, and rigid religion crushed those archetypes. Replaced them with soldiers, CEOs, and stoic fathers. Men were no longer nurturers or dreamers—they became providers. And in becoming so, many lost access to their inner poet, healer, and nurturer.
Modern society still doesn’t know what to do with a soft, strong man. A man who’s emotionally visible and boundaried. A man who cries and also protects. We label him confusing, weak, even dangerous to the status quo.
But that gentle leader? He still lives in your bones. You’ve met him in moments of deep stillness—when you held your child after a nightmare. When you chose silence instead of shouting. When you forgave instead of seeking revenge.
I remember my grandfather—he was a farmer, a man of few words. But when my dog died, he cried with me. Held my hand. Didn’t try to fix it. Just sat there, heart wide open. That’s sacred masculinity. That’s power that doesn’t intimidate—it liberates.
You don’t have to choose between being strong or soft. You can be both. The world is starving for men who know how to lead with both courage and compassion.
Long before men were breadwinners or tech bros or alpha-anythings, they were something else entirely: gentle leaders.
These were the men who didn’t need to raise their voices to be heard. They didn’t dominate through fear. They guided through presence.
In many ancient cultures, masculine leadership was as much about heart as it was about honour. The strongest man in the tribe wasn’t the one who fought the hardest—he was the one who brought people together after the fight. He was the storyteller, the dream keeper, the one who sat by the fire and reminded others of their humanity.
Today, that archetype is almost extinct. And yet, so many men ache for him. They feel it in their bones—that longing to be something more than just a provider or protector. To lead with both courage and care.
But we’ve buried that leader under layers of cynicism, performance, and trauma.
Men have been told that softness equals weakness. That vulnerability is a liability. That if you’re not commanding the room, you’re losing it.
So what happens?
Men stop leading from the soul.
They start performing.
They silence their intuition.
They sacrifice authenticity for authority.
And everyone suffers—partners, children, communities. Because a man who cannot lead himself gently can’t lead anyone else at all.
But the gentle leader isn’t gone. He’s just waiting to be remembered.
You’ve felt him stirring inside you during moments of stillness. When you held your baby for the first time. When you listened instead of fixed. When you stayed quiet—not because you had nothing to say, but because the moment needed silence, not solutions.
That’s the man the world needs more of.
And you don’t have to become him. You already are him.
You just have to strip away everything that told you otherwise.
Are numb, avoidant men just unhealed boys?
Ever wondered why so many men shut down in relationships? Why ghosting, stonewalling, or emotional avoidance are so common?
Because we’re often dealing with grown men housing unhealed boys inside them.
Let me explain.
It’s not that men won’t connect emotionally—it’s that many literally don’t know how.
I once worked with a man—let’s call him Aman—who confessed that every time his wife cried, he felt like running. Not because he didn’t care, but because it triggered a helplessness from childhood, watching his mother cry while his father yelled. He had no blueprint for comfort. Only escape.
We need to stop shaming men for being distant and start asking: “What happened to you that made you afraid to feel?”
Healing doesn’t mean men become perfect. It means they become present.
To all the men reading this: if you feel numb, anxious, emotionally distant, or disconnected from your purpose—you’re not broken. You’re likely carrying emotional wounds you weren’t allowed to name.
You are not your trauma. You are not your emotional paralysis. You are the man who chooses to meet his inner boy—not with shame, but with love.
And when you do? The emotional visibility that follows will change everything. For you. For your partners. For your future children. For the world.
Let’s talk about something that makes many men squirm: emotional avoidance.
We all know the type—distant in relationships, allergic to conflict, quietly withdrawing when intimacy gets too close. But what if I told you these behaviours aren’t flaws? That they’re clues?
Because more often than not, a numb man is just a boy who wasn’t safe to feel.
He didn’t choose emotional shut-down. It was a survival strategy.
Think back: was there a moment you stopped reaching for comfort? Stopped crying in front of others? Stopped asking for help?
That was the moment the inner boy went into hiding.
And in his place, a version of you showed up that could survive—competent, functional, disconnected.
Emotional avoidance isn’t a character flaw. It’s a form of self-protection. But it comes at a steep cost: shallow relationships, inner isolation, chronic stress, even illness.
I once worked with a man in his 50s who hadn’t hugged his father in over 30 years. He couldn’t say why—only that “it felt weird.” In our work together, he realised he had internalised that love must be earned, not offered freely.
That belief coloured every relationship he had. He avoided vulnerability, intimacy, real joy.
But when he finally met his inner boy—in a visualisation where he told him, “I’m here now. I won’t leave again”—he sobbed for hours. And something shifted. He hugged his father the next month. Not because his dad changed—but because he did.
Unhealed boys in grown men’s bodies are everywhere. And the healing doesn’t start with blame. It starts with compassion.
If you’ve been numb, distant, avoidant—you’re not broken. You’re waiting to be witnessed. You’re ready to be loved by the only person who can truly give it to you now: you.
Journal prompt: What does “Being a Man” mean to me?
Let’s slow it down. Put your phone on silent. Breathe deep.
Now ask yourself: What does being a man mean to me?
Not what your father said. Not what the movies said. Not what the boys in school said. What does it mean to you, right now?
Get a journal. Write freely. Here are some guiding questions:
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When did I first realise I was “supposed” to be a man?
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What emotions have I been taught to suppress?
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What do I think makes me masculine?
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What parts of my masculinity feel false?
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What kind of man do I want to become?
This isn’t a “quick fix.” It’s a portal to your truth.
You might write one page. Or twenty. You might cry. Or laugh. That’s okay. Just don’t filter it. Honour what comes up.
And if you're feeling stuck, here’s a powerful entry from one of my readers (shared with permission, anonymously):
“Being a man, to me, used to mean pretending nothing hurt. Today, it means facing my emotions head-on. Being a man means no longer abandoning myself.”
Powerful, isn’t it?
Your words have that power too. Writing is healing. It’s a map back home.
Stop. Breathe. This is your sacred pause.
This next part isn’t about reading. It’s about writing. Feeling. Digging.
Take a pen and paper—or open your journal app. And write this at the top of the page:
“What does being a man mean to me—today?”
Not what your dad taught you. Not what your coach yelled at you. Not what society broadcasted. You—now. In this body. In this moment.
Write without editing. Let the truth pour out like it’s been waiting for years (because it has).
Here are some prompts to guide you:
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When did I first feel pressure to “man up”?
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What emotions do I still hide?
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Who taught me what a “real man” is?
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What part of my masculinity feels authentic?
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What part feels performative?
You might be surprised what comes up.
One man wrote: “Being a man means pretending I’m not scared. But I am. And I’m tired of pretending.”
Another wrote: “Being a man, to me, means listening. Not controlling. That’s new.”
Because the moment you define masculinity for yourself, you stop letting the world define you.
And in that space, something new is born—a version of you that’s not chasing validation, but living in truth.
Can a man be both protector and poet?
Oh, the dance between armour and art. Between the man who stands guard—and the man who spills his soul through a pen, a guitar, a gaze. Let me just say this, straight from the heart: you are allowed to be both.
In fact, you're meant to be.
Somewhere along the male journey, this false choice emerged: Be strong or be sensitive. Lead or feel. Be the rock or the rain.
But what if the most powerful men are those who write poetry after standing their ground? Who quote Rumi between jiu-jitsu drills? Who listen to their partner cry without rushing to fix her pain—because they’ve done the hard work of sitting with their own?
In tribal societies, warriors would often sing songs before battle—not just for motivation but for emotional balance. The protector wasn’t just muscle and fury. He was ceremony. He was prayer. He was presence.
I've met many men torn between what they feel and how they think they're supposed to act. One client, Arjun, built a successful business by 30. But inside? Empty. His turning point came when he wrote his first poem to his estranged father. Not for closure. Not for an audience. Just to feel.
That poem broke something open—and rebuilt something sacred. “I finally saw myself,” he told me. “The protector and the poet.”
Want to know a secret? Women (and the world) crave men who can hold space and emotion. Who can be the calm in the storm and the one who weeps when moved by beauty. That is divine masculine healing in action.
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Let’s sit with this question for a moment.
Can you be the one who protects—and the one who feels deeply? Can you be the shield and the song? The sword and the softness?
Not only can you be both—you must be both, if you want to be whole.
This false dichotomy between strength and sensitivity is a modern invention. It didn’t exist in indigenous cultures, in ancient brotherhoods, or among sacred lineages. In those times, a man’s power came from his ability to hold paradox. To grieve what needed grieving. To defend what needed defending. To honour what needed beauty.
Today, most men suppress the poet out of fear of seeming weak—and they over-identify with the protector until all that remains is performance and pressure. But without the poet? The protector becomes hard. Hollow. Harsh.
I’ve seen it firsthand.
A man builds an empire, earns seven figures, lifts weights like a god… but can’t say “I love you” without fumbling. Can’t cry when his child is hurting. Can’t sit in silence with his own ache. That’s not strength. That’s fragmentation.
But something incredible happens when he lets the poet rise.
When he picks up a pen. When he plays guitar. When he watches a sunset and doesn’t rush to document it.
He becomes soft—but not fragile. Gentle—but not weak. Present—but not passive.
And everything changes.
His relationships deepen. His sex becomes sacred. His leadership becomes soulful. Because he’s no longer split between doing and being. He has integrated.
To the man reading this: your softness is not a liability. It’s your superpower. When you speak with empathy and act with integrity, you become a force this world desperately needs.
What happens when you father your inner child?
If you're unfamiliar with this concept, let me offer it gently: every man has a boy inside him who never got what he needed. That boy is still waiting. Still wondering. Still aching.
And the only person who can give him what he truly needs now… is you.
It’s the cornerstone of masculine emotional healing. Fathering your inner child means becoming the father figure you always longed for—but maybe never had.
Imagine this: You close your eyes and see your 6-year-old self. Alone. Hurt. Confused. What would your father-self say to your boy-self?
Would he say: "Toughen up"? Or would he kneel beside him, place a hand on his back, and whisper, “I see you. I love you. I’ve got you now.”
When I did this for the first time, I wept. Not polite tears. Full-body sobs. Because for the first time, I realised no one was coming to save me—but I could save myself.
This practice is not about reliving trauma. It’s about re-parenting yourself with tenderness and truth. About building the emotional muscles that let you hold space for your fear, grief, and wonder without judgement.
Start with this:
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Write a letter to your younger self.
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Apologise for abandoning him emotionally.
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Promise to show up for him every day moving forward.
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Speak to him when you feel triggered. Ask what he needs.
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Let your adult self become the safe haven your child self never had.
Healing begins the moment you stop outsourcing love and start offering it inward.
There’s a boy inside you right now.
He remembers everything.
The time you were told not to cry. The time your needs weren’t met. The time you were told you were “too sensitive,” “too needy,” “too much.” He remembers, even if you’ve forgotten.
And here’s the sacred truth: he’s still waiting for someone to come back for him.
Most men live their entire lives trying to “man up” and push through, never realising that it’s not the adult self that’s stuck—it’s the inner child. He never stopped hoping someone would rescue him. Someone strong. Someone kind. Someone who sees him fully.
That someone… is you.
Fathering your inner child doesn’t mean babying yourself. It means showing up as the man you needed when you were 7, 10, 14 years old. It means offering safety where there was chaos. Consistency where there was neglect. Validation where there was shame.
Try this:
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Close your eyes. Visualise your child self.
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Picture his face. His expression. His energy.
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Say to him: “I see you. I love you. I’m here now. I will never leave you again.”
That single act of re-parenting can begin to heal years—decades—of buried grief and loneliness.
One man I worked with said it best: “I used to scream at myself for being weak. But now I realise I was yelling at a child inside me who just wanted love.”
When you father your inner child:
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You stop projecting your wounds onto your partner.
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You stop expecting the world to give you what you’ve never given yourself.
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You start feeling whole—maybe for the first time.
This is real strength. Not armouring up, but showing up—for your past, your present, and your legacy.
Can healed masculine energy attract love and wealth?
Here’s a bit of truth we’re not taught enough: unhealed masculine energy repels what the soul desires most.
Why?
Because love requires vulnerability. Wealth (the soulful kind) requires alignment. And both demand presence, not performance.
When a man is disconnected from his emotional core, his energy feels off—like a song with the bass turned all the way down. He may do all the right things, say all the right lines, even build an empire… but if his energy says “I don’t trust myself,” others feel it too.
Healed masculine energy, however? It’s magnetic. Not in a flashy, look-at-me way. In a grounded, I-see-you way. A man who walks into a room fully embodied—aware of his shadows, present in his body, aligned with purpose—attracts everything good in life without chasing it.
Here’s what that looks like:
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He holds emotional space in his relationships. Result? Deep, nourishing love.
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He trusts his decisions. Result? Financial expansion without burnout.
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He leads from service, not ego. Result? Influence that heals instead of harms.
Love and wealth are not rewards—they're reflections of your inner balance.
Want to magnetise more of what you desire? Start within.
Let’s get something straight: healed men attract differently.
Not because they’re better. But because they’re clearer. Cleaner in their energy. Aligned in their values. Whole in their presence.
When your masculine energy is fragmented—split between unhealed wounds and unconscious coping—you tend to attract:
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Relationships that reflect your chaos
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Clients or jobs that drain your soul
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Financial stress that mirrors inner scarcity
But when you heal, you stop chasing what you thought would complete you. You start magnetising what truly aligns.
Love flows. Not because you’re “high value” in some egoic way—but because your heart is open, your wounds are owned, and your actions are congruent with your truth.
Wealth flows. Not just in money, but in time, creativity, energy, and soul satisfaction. Because you’re no longer hustling for worth—you’re creating from overflow.
A man does the inner work. Clears childhood shame. Forgives his father. Integrates his feminine energy. And suddenly—his business thrives. His marriage heals. His health improves.
So if your love life is flat, your career stuck, or your passion dried up—don’t ask what’s wrong with the world.
Ask: “What part of me still doesn’t feel worthy of ease, love, and abundance?”
Heal that part. And watch everything shift.
What is a daily warrior ritual for men?
This is where we get practical, grounded, and intentional.
Because all the awareness in the world means nothing without daily embodied action. Enter: the Daily Warrior Ritual.
This isn’t about spending an hour in a cave meditating (unless you want to). It’s about a sacred commitment to your emotional and energetic hygiene, every single day. Think of it as brushing your soul’s teeth.
Here’s a sample ritual:
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Morning Grounding (5 min) – Sit in stillness. Feet on the floor. Breathe deep. Repeat: “I am here. I am whole. I am held.”
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Body Activation (10 min) – Stretch, move, shake, dance, run, do martial arts. Get the stagnant energy OUT.
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Emotional Check-In (5 min) – Journal one line: “Right now I feel…” No editing. No judgement.
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Sacred Silence (5 min) – No phone. No noise. Just breath and presence.
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Closing Intention (2 min) – Speak your intention aloud. Example: “Today I choose gentle strength. Today I meet life as a warrior, not a worrier.”
Sound simple? It is. Sound powerful? You better believe it.
You don’t need more tools. You need consistency. Real warriors train daily. Not for war, but for peace.
Every warrior needs a ritual. Not just to prepare for battle—but to remember who he is when the world forgets.
In today’s overstimulated, hypermasculine culture, men are constantly in performance mode. Solving problems. Making money. Fixing everything. And somewhere in that chaos, they lose the connection to themselves.
A daily warrior ritual is not about perfection. It’s not a rigid checklist. It’s a daily act of returning to your body, your breath, your soul.
Here’s one I recommend. You can modify it to fit your life:
🌄 Morning Warrior Ritual (20–25 minutes)
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Grounding (5 min): Stand barefoot. Breathe into your feet. Repeat: “I am rooted. I am ready.”
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Movement (5 min): Stretch, shake, flow. Move any way your body wants. Release the night’s tension.
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Breathwork (5 min): Try box breathing: 4 in, 4 hold, 4 out, 4 hold. Repeat for 5 rounds.
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Journal (5 min): Write: *“Today, I choose…” and complete the sentence with intention.
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Stillness (5 min): Sit in silence. Eyes closed. Let your nervous system recalibrate.
Why does this work?
Because routine regulates. Ritual gives your masculine energy a container—a way to show up with clarity, calm, and coherence.
You’re not just brushing your teeth. You’re brushing off the emotional gunk. You’re not just stretching. You’re unfreezing trauma. You’re not just journaling. You’re declaring your day with power.
And when you show up for yourself consistently? The world begins to show up differently too.
How does movement help reconnect men to themselves?
We often say “move your body” like it’s about fitness. But movement is so much more—it’s emotional exorcism, energetic recalibration, and spiritual reconnection all rolled into one.
Men have stored lifetimes of trauma in their bodies. Generational suppression. Cultural silencing. Childhood grief. And it doesn’t leave through thinking—it leaves through sweating, shaking, crying, dancing, punching, stillness.
I once watched a man cry uncontrollably during his first Qigong class. Why? Because his hips opened up and released decades of grief he didn’t know he was carrying.
You don’t have to understand movement to begin. You just have to trust that your body remembers what your mind has forgotten.
Move. Mourn. Melt. That’s the path back home.
Most men live in their heads.
They analyse, plan, fix, control. But they rarely feel. And not because they don’t want to—but because they’ve been cut off from the body.
The body is where trauma lives. Where emotion gets stuck. Where intuition whispers. And without movement, men become like pressurised tanks—full of energy, with no release valve.
That’s why movement isn’t optional. It’s medicine.
But not just any movement. The kind that doesn’t try to sculpt you into something. The kind that brings you back to yourself.
Here’s what I recommend:
🥋 Martial Arts
Martial arts help men channel energy, set boundaries, and regulate aggression. The discipline of form and flow trains the nervous system to respond—not react.
🌀 Qigong / Tai Chi
These ancient practices reconnect breath, body, and intention. They teach slow power. Grounded energy. Quiet control.
💃 Primal Movement / Ecstatic Dance
Yes, dance. Unstructured, instinctual movement breaks down shame and frees up suppressed emotion. You’ll feel ridiculous. Then free. Then whole.
🔥 TRE (Trauma Release Exercises)
These exercises induce involuntary tremors—a natural response the body uses to discharge trauma. Safe. Gentle. Profound.
Men often tell me, “I didn’t even know how much I was holding… until I moved.”
When you move intentionally, you begin to feel again. Your body becomes your compass. Your breath becomes your anchor. Your presence becomes your power.
No guru needed. Just your bones. Your breath. And your willingness to come back home.
Can you begin the 7-Day Sacred masculinity reboot?
Healing isn’t instant. But it can begin today. And one of the most powerful ways I’ve seen men reconnect to their sacred masculine energy is through a 7-day reboot. Think of it as hitting the emotional refresh button.
Each day, you commit to one small, soul-aligned act. It’s not about doing more. It’s about being more present with who you are becoming.
🌞 The 7-Day Reboot Map:
This is about remembering the sacred parts of you that were buried under survival.
Men who’ve done this challenge report better sleep, deeper connection, emotional clarity, and renewed energy. Start with Day 1. The rest will flow.
Let’s not overcomplicate healing. Transformation begins not with some massive leap, but with small sacred steps taken consistently. That’s where the 7-Day Sacred Masculinity Reboot comes in.
Each day invites you into one powerful theme—something to feel, something to question, something to remember. It’s gentle, simple, and deeply transformational if done with presence.
It’s about reclaiming you—the man you were before the world told you to toughen up, shut it down, and stay small.
Do it imperfectly. Let it be messy. Let it be yours.
And if you miss a day? Begin again.
Because the sacred masculine doesn’t demand perfection. He just asks you to show up.
Where in your life are you strong—but still hiding?
There’s strength and then there’s sacred strength.
Too many men are strong in silence. They hold everyone else’s weight. Pay the bills. Protect their loved ones. But never let anyone in. Never ask for help. Never say: “I’m scared. I’m tired. I don’t want to be the hero today.”
And that’s where they begin to disappear. Bit by bit. Year by year.
You might be the man who always has the answers—but deep down, you feel unseen. Maybe even invisible. Maybe like your only value is in what you do, not who you are.
Sound familiar?
Then I ask you again: Where in your life are you strong—but still hiding?
Your gentle warrior needs you to stop hiding behind your usefulness. He needs you to be visible in your truth, not just your responsibilities.
Make a list today:
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Where do I feel most competent?
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Where do I feel most invisible?
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Where do I crave to be witnessed—but am afraid to be?
You weren’t born to hide behind your achievements. You were born to be seen in your wholeness.
We all know men who are strong.
They raise families. Lead companies. Train hard. Pay the bills. Survive trauma. Fight battles no one ever sees. They carry it all—and still keep going.
But strength without visibility can become a cage. A silent prison.
That’s the hidden epidemic: men who are powerful, competent, and respected… but emotionally invisible.
It’s one thing to do it all. It’s another to be seen doing it. Not for validation—but for truth.
So I ask you: Where in your life are you strong—but still hiding?
You don’t get extra points for emotional invisibility. You don’t get loved more for never needing anything. You just get lonely.
Men often think hiding is noble. That stoicism earns respect. But what if true masculine strength is being so grounded in yourself that you no longer need to perform?
Visibility is terrifying when you’re not used to it. It feels like exposure. But when you show up as you are—messy, feeling, imperfect—you create intimacy.
And that, brother, is worth more than any performance of “manhood” the world offers.
So ask yourself: What truth have I not spoken yet? What part of me is still underground?
That’s where your power lives.
What is the role of brotherhood in this journey?
Let me say this plainly: men need other men to heal.
We’ve lost that. Too many men walk this world as lone wolves—hyper-independent, emotionally starving, silently aching.
And yet? In the right circle, something ancient awakens. The guard drops. The chest opens. The tears come. And so does the laughter, the pride, the shared weight.
When you sit in a circle of men who aren’t there to impress or compete, but to be real, something holy happens. You see your wounds in each other. You reclaim the right to feel. You realise… you were never broken.
Start small:
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Host a “men’s night” with one theme: truth-telling.
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Invite a friend to share his real struggles.
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Join a virtual men’s group.
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Or better yet, create one.
The most masculine thing a man can do is hold another man’s pain without trying to fix it.
Let me speak this loudly and clearly: you cannot do this alone.
Healing masculinity is not a solo project. It’s a collective remembering. And for that, you need brothers.
Not just friends. Not just coworkers. Soul witnesses.
Men who see you not as a competitor or a rival, but as a reflection. A mirror. A companion on the path.
The lone wolf narrative? It’s a lie. It’s killing us.
Men are four times more likely to die by suicide than women—and a major reason is emotional isolation. We’ve replaced village fires with silent suffering.
But sacred brotherhood heals that.
When you sit in circle with other men—real, vulnerable, grounded men—something ancient activates. You’re no longer just a man. You’re part of something sacred.
You learn:
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That your pain is not unique—but it is holy.
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That your strength deepens when shared.
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That witnessing another man’s tears doesn’t make you weak—it makes you real.
You realise: I don’t have to hide anymore. I don’t have to fix anyone. I just have to show up.
I’ve seen men who hadn’t cried in 20 years break down within five minutes of being truly held by a group of grounded, open-hearted men.
This is what we need. More than strategy. More than self-help books. We need circles, fires, stories, truth.
Because men healing together? That’s the future of sacred masculinity.
What would change if men became emotionally visible?
Picture this: a world where men cry in front of their sons and say “I love you” to their fathers. Where men apologise without defensiveness. Where men receive affection without shame.
What would happen?
I’ll tell you.
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Relationships would deepen overnight.
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Sons would grow up emotionally literate.
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Daughters would stop settling for half-present partners.
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Violence would drop. Compassion would rise.
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And most of all… men would stop dying inside.
Emotional visibility isn’t weakness. It’s wisdom made visible.
It means saying “I’m hurting” instead of “I’m fine.” It means asking for a hug instead of starting a fight. It means allowing yourself to be seen not as a machine—but as a soul.
There’s no bigger revolution than a man who stops hiding.
🔗 Also Read: Understanding the Man We Call Mahatma – Gandhi embodied sacred masculine energy through humility, vulnerability, and radical courage. A legacy worth reclaiming.
Imagine a world where:
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Fathers told their sons “I’m scared too sometimes.”
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Men cried without shame.
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Apologies came from the heart, not ego.
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Emotional safety was seen as strength, not softness.
That’s not fantasy. That’s what becomes possible when men reclaim their emotional visibility.
Emotions are not “feminine.” They’re human. And men feeling fully is not the problem. It’s the solution.
When men become emotionally visible:
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Relationships deepen.
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Conflict reduces.
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Health improves.
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Creativity flows.
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Children grow up emotionally fluent.
And men themselves? They finally feel whole.
Visibility means no more hiding behind anger. No more buffering with humour. No more shame-swallowing. Just presence. Just truth.
I worked with a man who said, “I never told my wife I was scared to lose her. I always acted chill. She thought I didn’t care. I was terrified.”
When he finally said it—tears, voice shaking—she wept. Not from sadness. From relief. She finally saw him.
Men think they need to protect everyone by being the rock. But sometimes, the greatest protection is offering your humanity.
Not falling apart. Just letting yourself be seen.
Ready to book a one-on-one healing session?
If something stirred in you while reading this—if you feel your soul whispering “it’s time”—I invite you to book a one-on-one consultation.
Together, we’ll:
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Heal inner child wounds in a grounded, non-judgmental space
You’re not too late. You’re right on time.
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If your heart is still racing, your breath deep, your body stirred—this is your call.
Not to keep reading. But to start doing.
I offer private, guided sessions for men ready to go deeper. Men who’ve hit their ceiling. Who’ve read all the books. Who want not more answers—but embodied presence.
Here’s what we’ll do together:
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Heal emotional wounds and ancestral patterns
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Rewire your nervous system for calm, not chaos
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Build daily rituals that anchor your truth
📩 Book your session or message me on Instagram @TusharMangl for a private conversation.
If this stirred something in you—don’t wait another year to feel whole.
🪶Why did you learn to shrink your feelings?
Let’s pause. Sit back. Hand over heart. Let this question echo in your bones:
“When did I learn that my feelings were too much?”
If you’re like most men, you didn’t decide to shrink your emotions. You were taught. Not always with cruelty. Often with silence. With sideways glances. With jokes that stung but no one apologised for.
You were taught in a million invisible ways that to feel deeply meant:
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To lose control.
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To be mocked.
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To be unsafe.
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To be less of a man.
This conditioning doesn’t happen overnight. It’s a slow erosion.
So what do you do?
You shrink. Your voice. Your tears. Your heart.
You compress the full spectrum of your soul into this tight little version of yourself—palatable, productive, emotionally bland. And the world applauds. They call you “strong,” “dependable,” “mature.”
But inside?
You’re starving.
You start coping instead of living. You overwork, overeat, overspend, overthink. You collect followers but not intimacy. You earn money but not peace. You perform masculinity, but you don’t feel whole.
Friend, listen: you weren’t too sensitive. You were unprotected.
And now, as a man, you get to do something radical. You get to unlearn the shrinkage. You get to feel again. You get to expand.
🔗 Reflection: That Is – A quiet, powerful meditation on why our words, emotions, and presence matter. Every man should read this.
And if you’ve made it this far into this article? That means your expansion has already begun.
This part’s tender. But it’s important.
You didn’t just wake up one day and decide, “I’m going to suppress myself.” No.
You learned to shrink. Bit by bit. Year by year. Until emotional invisibility became your normal.
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A teacher mocked you for crying.
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A father scowled when you asked to be held.
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A friend called you weak for saying “I’m scared.”
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A lover rolled her eyes when you said you needed rest.
So you stopped. You adapted. You survived.
But here’s the truth no one told you:
Your shrinking kept you safe. But it also kept you small.
Now you get to do something revolutionary. You get to expand. Reclaim. Roar. Not in a performative way—but in a way that feels like you.
You were never too much.
You were never the problem.
You were just a soul learning to protect itself.
Now you get to become visible—without fear.
And the world gets better because of it.
🔁 Reflection Question
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“What do you apologise for feeling most?”
Write these down. Answer them honestly. Then ask yourself: “What’s stopping me from living that version of myself… now?”
🧨What happens when you suppress rage, grief, or desire?
Here’s a question I ask every man I work with:
“Where in your body are you storing what you refuse to express?”
Unexpressed emotion doesn’t disappear. It mutates.
Let’s break it down:
🔥 Rage (when suppressed):
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Turns into passive-aggression, sarcasm, numbness, or explosive outbursts.
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Leads to high blood pressure, chronic pain, headaches.
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Creates emotional distance in relationships—especially with children.
- Sarcastic self-sabotage
- Explosive outbursts at the wrong people, at the wrong time
Rage is not evil. It’s information. It’s the body saying: “A boundary was broken. A wound was touched.” Suppressed rage turns into chronic stress, heart disease, even autoimmune issues.
Let it move. Punch pillows. Scream in the car. Shake. Hit the gym with intention. Rage is sacred fire—don’t let it eat you alive from the inside.
🌧 Grief (when unprocessed):
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Hardens the heart. You lose access to joy.
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Shows up as procrastination, depression, forgetfulness.
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Damages the immune system over time.
Emotional numbness
Depression masked as “laziness”
Addictions to work, porn, food, or distraction
We are a culture of grief-starved men. We move on too quickly. We say, “It is what it is,” but deep inside, we’re still holding funerals we never attended.
Grieve loudly. Weep with ceremony. Tell someone you’re still hurting. That is strength.
💓 Desire (when denied):
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Breeds resentment, secret shame and addictions.
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Can manifest as toxic sexuality or emotional withdrawa or infidelity
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Blocks creative energy—because eros isn’t just sex, it’s life-force.
Suppressing emotion is like damming a river. The pressure builds. And eventually, it bursts
Desire is not dangerous. You don’t need to suppress your longing—you need to understand it. Channel it. Honour it. Let it inspire your art, your love, your vision.
That’s why the gentle warrior feels everything, fully and responsibly. He screams into pillows. He cries in his car. He meditates before meetings. He expresses his truth before it calcifies into disease.
You don’t need to be a monk to heal. You just need to be honest with yourself.
Feel your rage. Honour your grief. Celebrate your desires.
They’re not your enemies.
What you suppress doesn’t disappear. It metastasizes.
When men learn to express these emotions in healthy ways, they don’t become chaotic.
They become free.
🔗 Further Reading: Understanding the Man We Call Mahatma – Gandhi embodied power through discipline, non-violence, and emotional truth. Sacred masculinity in its purest form.
🔚Can we make masculinity sacred again?
If you've read this far, you already know the answer.
Yes. We can. And we must.
Because the world is desperate for emotionally mature men. For leaders who feel. For fathers who hug. For partners who listen. For warriors who protect, not dominate.
The problem with guys today isn’t lack of strength—it’s lack of permission to be whole.
But here, right now, you’ve been granted that permission.
You’ve walked through the fire. Faced your numbness. Looked at the boy inside you. You’ve met the protector and the poet. The father and the son. The wounded and the wise.
So what now?
You act.
You heal.
You feel.
You teach other men how to do the same.
Not just for you. For your sons. For your daughters. For your ancestors. For this aching, beautiful world.
This isn’t a trend. This is a transmission.
Let this article be the start of a legacy.
Let it whisper into your bones:
“Welcome back. We’ve been waiting for you.”
A return to what always lived inside you before the world told you to trade your heart for hardness.
It’s about presence without pressure. Strength without force. Power without domination. It’s the kind of masculinity that feels deeply, protects fiercely, and leads with truth.
We’ve spent centuries teaching boys to become men by cutting off parts of themselves—emotions, intuition, expression, tenderness. And now, we live with the aftermath: men who are financially successful and emotionally starving. Men who build empires but struggle to look their sons in the eye. Men who are told, “You’re so strong,” but haven’t felt seen in years.
You reading this? That’s not an accident. It means you’re waking up. You’re remembering. You’re ready.
And no, you don’t have to fix it all today. You don’t need to cry on command or throw away everything you’ve built. You just have to start showing up for the boy inside you who never stopped hoping you would come back.
That boy is waiting. That poet is waiting. That protector, that priest, that sacred masculine being you’ve buried under “shoulds” and “have-tos”—he’s waiting too.
You’re not late.
You’re right on time.
The world doesn’t need more men pretending to have it all together. It needs more men who are brave enough to fall apart and rise, heart first.
This isn’t the end. It’s the beginning of everything.
Welcome home.
❓ Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
1. What is sacred masculinity, really?
What’s the fastest way to begin this journey?
🔁 Reflection Question:
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“What would your life look like if you stopped hiding your emotions?”
✨ Practices to Regulate Without Suppressing
These aren’t hacks. Here’s how you can regulate emotion without shutting it down:
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Breathwork (Box Breathing): Inhale 4, hold 4, exhale 4, hold 4. 5 minutes daily.
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Walking Meditation: Match breath to steps. Slow. Grounded. Present.
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Voice Expression: Talk out loud in private. Express everything. Even the ugly.
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Creative Release: Paint, sketch, sing, break something (safely). Let it move through you.
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Sacred Cold Showers: Use water to shock, reset, and reawaken sensation.
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Prayer or Mantra: Repeat an anchoring phrase like “I am allowed to feel fully.”
You don’t need to suppress. You only need to listen—and respond with love.
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❓ FAQs: What Every Man (and Woman) Should Know About Sacred Masculinity
Can sacred masculinity help in my career and relationships?
You don’t need more noise.
You need a sacred space to feel again.
📅 Book your one-on-one consultation with me now. Let's:
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Heal what’s stuck.
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✍️ Author
Tushar Mangl is a counselor, vastu expert, and author of I Will Do It and Ardika. He writes on food, books, personal finance, mental health, and the art of living a balanced life. Blogging at tusharmangl.com since 2006, Tushar helps unseen souls design lives, spaces, and relationships that heal and elevate—through ancient wisdom, energetic alignment, and grounded action.
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