🪞 What does it mean when we say objects hold energy?
There’s a moment—quiet and fleeting—when you hold something in your hand and your entire body remembers. A whiff of perfume, the texture of a worn-out book cover, the faded stitching of a childhood toy. And suddenly, time folds. You’re not just you anymore. You’re also the you that once laughed, cried, or loved with that object close by.
This is the energy of objects. And it's real.
In the realm of neuroscience, the hippocampus—the brain’s memory bank—doesn’t store facts alone. It stores context: what you felt, what you saw, what you wore, where you were. That’s why a particular scarf or chair or cup of chai can unlock a tidal wave of emotion. These objects are portals, layered with memory and meaning.
But it's not just the mind—it’s the aura. Every interaction you have with an item leaves an imprint. Your joy, sorrow, anger, love—they get absorbed like sunlight on a windowsill. And objects? They hold that light or that shadow, waiting patiently until you touch them again.
There’s a powerful piece I want you to explore further called "Are You In Love or Just Filling a Void?". It’s a mirror to this exact point: many of us fill our homes—and hearts—with things that reflect what we’re afraid to confront.
Let me tell you a story as told to me by Abhilasha.
"I had a small ceramic bowl once. Blue. Cracked but glued back lovingly. My mother gave it to me on a night we cried over lost love, sitting on the floor eating leftover kheer. Years later, she was gone. That bowl? It wasn’t just porcelain. It was her voice saying, “Eat, beta. Life heals.” I kept it not for the function, but for the feeling. It became an altar to resilience."
But not all energy is sweet.
Some objects hum with ache. A painting bought during a toxic relationship. A shirt worn during grief. A journal of dreams you abandoned. These carry vibrations too. And if your home is filled with these silent singers of sorrow, how can peace land in your space?
Start small.
Walk around your room. Pick up something. Anything. Hold it. Breathe. Ask yourself:
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What does this object make me feel, right now?
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Am I holding onto it out of joy—or fear of forgetting?
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Is this feeding my spirit, or bleeding it?
Objects don’t just reflect where you’ve been—they shape where you’re going. And choosing what stays with you is not a task—it’s a spiritual declaration.
The answer will shift your entire vibration.
🧳Why do we get so emotionally attached to stuff?
Have you ever opened a forgotten drawer and suddenly found a crumpled letter, an old friendship bracelet, or a concert ticket stub—and just like that, you were transported to a version of yourself long buried?
That’s not just memory. That’s emotional anchoring.
We don’t attach to objects because we’re materialistic. We attach because our souls are wired for story—and objects carry our most silent stories.
From a neuroscience perspective, we know this: our brain encodes memories using both emotion and context. That means physical items become emotional bookmarks. A yellow scarf doesn’t just keep you warm—it holds the scent of the person who gave it, the song playing when you wore it, the sadness in your eyes the day you last touched it. It holds you.
Attachment to possessions is deeply tied to identity continuity—the need to feel that we are the same person through time, despite constant change. When life moves too fast, or when trauma disturbs our sense of self, we grip objects tightly. Not for comfort alone—but to remind ourselves we existed, that we mattered, that something made sense once.
Now let’s go deeper: what if emotional attachment is also a trauma response?
When we don’t get the validation or connection we crave from people, we unconsciously start investing in things. It’s safer. Things don’t leave. They don’t judge. A childhood toy that comforted us becomes a stand-in for a parent’s love. A book that got us through heartbreak becomes a shrine to our survival.
And we carry these things forward, layer upon layer. That’s why parting with possessions can feel like grief. Because it is grief. It’s saying goodbye not just to a thing—but to a version of ourselves who clung to that thing for dear life.
Let me tell you about Chinari—a client of mine, a talented designer who had lost her father in her early twenties. She kept all his suits in her closet, untouched for eight years. She didn’t wear them. Didn’t touch them. But when we finally sat with one, and she held the cuff of a sleeve to her face, she whispered, “This is the last thing he wore when we talked about my career.” Her tears weren’t about the fabric. They were about the unfinished story.
It took six months of slow, intentional dialogue with those clothes for her to let go—not just of the suits, but of the guilt she felt for moving forward. Today, she keeps one scarf of his, cleansed, blessed, folded beside her sketchbook. A memory—not a burden.
🧘🏽♀️ The 3-touch practice
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Touch the item. Breathe. Let any memory rise.
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Touch your heart. Ask: “Is this attachment rooted in love—or in fear?”
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Touch the earth (or floor beneath you). Ground yourself. Say: “I honour what this gave me. I release what I no longer need.”
Remember, you are not the object. You are the love, the memory, the transformation it represents. And you get to keep all that—without the weight.
The next time you hesitate to let go of a gift, a letter, a shirt, ask:
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Is this a souvenir from a healed chapter—or an emotional leash to a wound I haven’t looked at?
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Does this remind me who I truly am—or who I was too afraid to stop being?
That’s where the healing begins.
🗃️Is sentimental clutter keeping you stuck?
That cardboard box under your bed, the overflowing drawer, the shelf of old diaries and unread letters—what are they really?
Are they memory? Or are they permission to stay tethered to a version of yourself you’ve outgrown?
Sentimental clutter is the hardest to part with because it masquerades as something sacred. But sacred things uplift. They ground. They bring peace. Sentimental clutter often does the opposite—it keeps your energy in the past, looping stories of regret, guilt, longing, and unprocessed grief.
And I say this with reverence: not all keepsakes are clutter. But many become emotional altars to pain we’ve never properly grieved.
Here’s the truth I’ve learned from guiding clients and seekers: sometimes the most cluttered space in your home isn’t the closet—it’s the heart.
I remember visiting Anshika, a gentle soul who had survived an abusive marriage. She’d been divorced for four years, and yet her wardrobe was still full of clothes he bought for her. “I don’t wear them,” she whispered. “But I don’t know what I’ll be without them.”
You see, the clutter wasn’t just physical. It was a trauma tether. Those clothes represented a chapter she hadn’t spiritually closed. Letting go of them wasn’t about fabric—it was about forgiveness, for herself, for staying, for surviving, and for finally choosing to bloom.
Together, we blessed those clothes, placed them in a white box, and released them with prayer. That night, she slept without nightmares for the first time in months.
Clutter can block not just your physical space but your energetic flow, your intuitive clarity, and even your capacity for joy. If your room looks like a museum of grief, how can it become a temple of renewal?
That’s why I urge you to explore this powerful resource on how decluttering your home can truly heal your life. It’s not about cleanliness. It’s about energetic clarity.
✨ The three types of sentimental clutter:
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Emotional echoes: Items tied to grief—lost relationships, deaths, endings.
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Obligatory keepsakes: Things you keep out of guilt—gifts, inherited items, “should keep” mementos.
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Identity anchors: Objects that reflect who you used to be—career symbols, fashion from a different life phase, goals you’ve outgrown.
Ask yourself:
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If I moved tomorrow, would this come with me—not because I should, but because it sings to my soul?
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Am I keeping this item because of love or because of fear?
🌿 Ritual for releasing sentimental clutter
Here’s a gentle practice you can try this week.
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Choose one sentimental item you haven’t used in over a year.
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Light a candle. Sit quietly with it.
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Say out loud: “Thank you for the story you held. I now carry its lesson in my heart. I release you in peace.”
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Place it in a release box. Bless it. Donate or discard with reverence.
Your ancestors did not pass down pain so you could decorate your shelves with it. They passed down resilience so you could heal what they couldn’t.
Let’s stop worshipping our wounds through what we store. Let’s keep what aligns with the love we’re ready to live—not the loss we’re afraid to forget.
🧭 How do you know what to keep and what to let go?
Letting go is more than decision-making.
It’s standing in front of a drawer, holding a scarf, a photo, a broken earring… and whispering to yourself, “Do I need this to be who I am becoming?”
Most people freeze in this moment. Not because they love clutter—but because they fear change. The mind tells you that keeping the object keeps the story alive. That without it, you’ll forget. That discarding something means discarding a piece of your identity.
But here's the shift that changes everything:
Let’s talk energetics. Every item in your space has a frequency. And every item you allow into your field is either helping raise your vibration—or subtly draining it. Imagine your home as a sacred grid. If half that grid is occupied by things you no longer love, need, or resonate with, you’ve already created blockages before even lighting your first candle or saying your morning mantra.
So, how do you actually know what to keep?
🧘🏽 The energy check method (Not Marie Kondo—This is deeper)
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Hold the item.
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Ask yourself:
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Does this feel alive or stagnant?
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Does this serve the season I am in now—or a chapter I’ve outgrown?
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If I met my higher self today, would they still own this?
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You’d be surprised how quickly the body answers. A small chill. A heavy exhale. A smile. A tug in the gut. Trust those signals.
But let’s be real. Some items confuse us.
That’s why I endorse a system I call the Keep – Donate – Release – Ritualise framework:
🧺 1. Keep
Items that spark clarity, connection, or joyful alignment with your future self. These go back into your space—but intentionally. Clean them. Bless them. Assign them spiritual value.
📦 2. Donate
These are pieces in good condition, but no longer carry your energy. You once loved them. They’ve served you. But they no longer hold your growth. Let them bless someone else’s journey.
🔥 3. Release
These are the heavy ones. Tattered. Charged. Trauma-linked. These need to go. But not carelessly. You must close the loop energetically. That leads us to…
🔮 4. Ritualise
Before discarding, hold the item. Say:
“You held me when I couldn’t hold myself.
I thank you. I release you. I rise anew.”
Burn incense. Light a lamp. Sing. Make it a goodbye ceremony. Closure is sacred.
Your soul will hear the answer.
In fact, I recently guided a community member through a full-space clearing. She’d held onto a tiny Ganesh idol gifted during her wedding—now broken. She kept it out of guilt. But she also felt heavy every time she looked at it.
We blessed the idol, offered it back to the earth near a Peepal tree, and she wept—not from sadness, but release. That same month, she started a new chapter of life—new job, new love, new space. Energy flows where space is made.
If you want to deepen this practice in your home, you’ll love my post on how Vastu can help you build a spiritually aligned space. It teaches you how your home can support your healing—not your hiding.
📓 Reflection journal prompts
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What is one item I’ve been afraid to let go of—and why?
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What version of me does this item represent?
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Am I ready to release that version with love?
Your vulnerability helps someone else get free.
🕊️ Can decluttering actually heal emotional wounds?
Let’s start with a hard truth that no one talks about: the clutter you’re avoiding is often the pain you haven’t processed.
We carry wounds in more than our hearts—we carry them in our closets, drawers, garage corners, and under our beds. This is where trauma sleeps when we’re too tired to face it. And that’s why decluttering is never just a physical act—it’s an act of emotional courage.
People often assume strength is pushing forward, cutting ties, or “getting over it.” But real strength is sitting with what hurts, thanking it, and then letting it go. As I wrote in my post, "Cutting people off isn't strength—it is survival", true power isn’t in detachment—it’s in conscious release.
So what happens when you declutter from that place of conscious release?
Here’s what I’ve seen time and again as a guide and space energy healer:
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People with anxiety often live in homes filled with unfinished projects, boxes never unpacked, and objects from versions of themselves they no longer resonate with.
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Grievers cling to clothes, perfumes, and shoes of the departed—not to honour, but to delay the final goodbye.
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High achievers keep every award, certificate, or trophy—even if their soul is screaming for reinvention.
There’s even scientific backing to this.
According to a study by UCLA’s Centre on Everyday Lives and Families, higher density of household objects correlates directly with elevated levels of cortisol—the stress hormone. That means clutter literally overwhelms your system. But when we clear physical space, cortisol levels reduce. Focus returns. Mood lifts. Even digestion improves.
🌿 The spiritual side: Decluttering as ceremony
In many ancient traditions—from Hinduism to Shinto to Native American rites—cleansing spaces is sacred duty. Why? Because space reflects spirit. Every dusting, rearrangement, and disposal is symbolic.
It says to the Universe: “I am clearing room for grace.”
Here’s a sacred method I teach:
🧘🏽♀️ The soul release Ritual
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Choose one area—a desk, a nightstand, a drawer.
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Light incense or a diya.
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Place your hand on the object you’re unsure about.
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Ask: “Does this still serve who I’m becoming?”
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If not, release it with this mantra:
Tears may come. That’s okay. That’s energy leaving your body.
📖 Real story: From heavy house to holy home
I once worked with a woman named Ayesha—an entrepreneur and single mother of two. Her home was spotless, but it held heavy silence. She’d lost her partner to suicide five years earlier. His clothes still hung in the back closet. His journals still in the second drawer.
She said, “I don’t know who I am without his things.”
Over several months, we moved slowly. Each object became a conversation. And when we finally released his books with handwritten letters inside to a library—along with a prayer—she told me, “I didn’t lose him. I just made space for him to live in my heart, not in a box.”
Decluttering lets you say:
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“This memory can now become a part of me, not the weight of me.”
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“I make space not because I lack—but because I finally believe I am enough without it.”
✍️ Guided reflection prompt
What item in your space do you know is ready to be released, but you've been afraid to touch? Write about it. Hold it. Thank it. Then, gently, let it go.
Please share your reflections in the comments—your story may help unlock someone else's.
🌫️ What is emotional clutter, really?
Emotional clutter is not just what’s stored in your drawers—it’s what’s stored in your body.
It’s that tension in your neck when your mother’s voice plays in your head again. It’s the tightness in your stomach when you open that message. It’s your jaw clenching around unspoken words. Emotional clutter is all the things you were never allowed to say, never allowed to grieve, never given permission to process.
It’s the smile you forced. The tears you hid. The truth you softened so others would stay.
And it accumulates—just like junk mail or receipts. One trauma, then another. One emotional bruise, then another. Until you are emotionally bloated, spiritually stuck, and unable to breathe deeply—even in the safest of places.
But no, friend. You weren’t meant to live like this. Your body is not a storage unit for sadness. Your spirit is not a landfill of pain.
That’s why true healing starts with naming it:
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The grief of never being seen.
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The rage you swallowed every time someone called you “too much.”
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The helplessness of never feeling safe in your own home.
These aren’t small things. They are sacred wounds. And they deserve the dignity of release.
So what does emotional clutter look like in real life?
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It’s the drawer of letters from someone who ghosted you.
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It’s the guilt you feel when someone offers love—because deep down, you don’t believe you deserve it.
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It’s the panic when life is good, because you’re waiting for it to collapse.
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It’s the paralyzing pressure to succeed, not out of joy—but because failure would mean proving your childhood abuser right.
Can you relate?
🏚️ Where does emotional energy linger in your home?
Homes don’t just house people—they house pain.
And most of us are living among the ghosts of our own unhealed emotions. Not supernatural spirits. But energy. Memory. Echoes of moments we never really released.
Walk through your home slowly. Really look. That untouched corner of the bedroom? That might be where the energy of abandonment sleeps. The dusty pile of books you haven’t touched in years? Maybe those are the ambitions you buried when someone told you “you’re not smart enough.” That photo on the fridge of a smiling version of you? Perhaps she’s the version you're too scared to become again.
According to Vastu Shastra, everything in your home has energetic polarity. Where you store things, how you place them, and even what direction they face influences how energy flows—or stagnates.
And where emotional energy stagnates, life begins to feel stuck.
🌫️ Where energy hides in plain sight:
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Corners accumulate emotional residue. Anger, jealousy, fear—especially if they’re filled with clutter.
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Mirrors double energy. If they face clutter or decay, you’re unknowingly amplifying stress.
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Under-bed storage holds your subconscious shadows. If you sleep above old trauma, your dreams will reflect it.
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Bathrooms can become emotional drains—especially if mirrors are cracked or plumbing is broken.
So, what does this mean practically?
If you were told to stop crying… if you were punished for feeling… if you were made to earn love through perfection or silence… your home might now reflect those very wounds.
But healing is possible. And your home can become your co-healer.
Please take a moment to read this important guide on why your childhood wasn’t your fault—and how to begin healing from it. It's gentle. It's real. And it might help you finally forgive yourself.
🪔 Small shifts, big healing:
“I clear what no longer belongs here. I call in peace.”
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Reposition mirrors. Ensure they reflect light, beauty, open spaces—not clutter.
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Clear under your bed. Replace boxes with a bowl of dried herbs (lavender, tulsi, or rose petals) to support restful energy.
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Add sacred objects. Symbols of what you want to feel—not just what you’ve endured. A candle for hope. A feather for softness. A child’s drawing for innocence.
Because that’s the truth: your home has held you through unspeakable sorrow. It deserves to now hold your healing.
✨ Reflection for the comment box
🔥How can a 3-Day detox help you clear emotional blocks?
This isn’t the kind of detox that asks you to drink green juice and pretend your trauma disappeared.
Not because you're broken. But because you’ve carried enough.
And it’s time to release—spiritually, emotionally, energetically.
🗓️ Day 1: write + burn ritual
You’ve been polite for too long. You’ve held it all in. It’s time to let it out.
When you’re done, read it once. Then burn it safely.
Watch the paper curl. The ink vanish. The words become smoke.
And whisper:
“You no longer get to live inside my body.
I return this pain to the earth.”
You might cry. You should. That’s called exhale healing—when the soul unclenches its fists.
🛁 Day 2: Salt bath + affirmation ritual
Water remembers. Salt purifies. Together, they cleanse timelines.
Prepare a warm bath or a foot soak if you don’t have a tub. Add:
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A handful of sea salt or Himalayan pink salt
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A few drops of lavender or eucalyptus oil (optional)
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Rose petals or tulsi leaves (sacred herbs for softness)
As you soak, speak to your cells:
“I forgive myself for every time I believed I wasn’t worthy.
I forgive others for what they didn’t know how to give me.
I let it go.”
Let your body remember what peace feels like.
Breathe slowly. Inhale trust. Exhale shame.
This is ancestral healing. You’re washing away not just your pain—but the pain passed down to you.
🕯️ Day 3: Rearranging sacred objects
Energy shifts when environments shift. So shift yours.
Go to one altar in your life—a bedside table, workspace, kitchen shelf. Remove anything that feels dull, stagnant, or tired.
Bless it. Thank it. Release it.
Then, place new sacred anchors:
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A feather (for lightness)
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A stone (for strength)
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A candle (for renewal)
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A photo of you smiling (for remembrance)
Arrange them with intention. This is not decor. This is design for your soul’s re-entry.
Your space is no longer a trauma museum. It is now a resurrection chamber.
🪷 Why this works (for everyone—from underdog to achiever)
Because no matter who you are—a millionaire burned out by success, a student silently breaking down, a single mother in survival mode—ritual speaks the language your nervous system understands.
This detox is trauma-informed. Vastu-aligned. Soul-supported.
And for those who need more guidance beyond this ritual, read this deeply needed resource on why your childhood trauma isn’t your fault and how healing begins now. It will hold your hand where your past dropped it.
And you deserve it.
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🧘♀️Can meditation really help you release deep emotional pain?
Let’s begin with what meditation is not.
Real meditation—the kind that transforms—is messy. It’s gut-wrenching. It’s spiritual excavation.
And it’s one of the only places where pain can be seen without being judged.
Because here’s what no one told you: the pain you carry isn’t just psychological. It’s somatic. It lives in your shoulders, your belly, your lower back, your throat. That tightness when someone raises their voice? That numbness when you try to cry but nothing comes out? That’s not mood. That’s memory.
Your body remembers what your mind tried to bury.
Meditation gives it permission to speak.
Now, let’s address the most common fear—especially among younger readers:
“But I can’t sit still.”
That’s not a weakness. That’s your nervous system on high alert from years of emotional suppression. It means your body doesn’t yet feel safe in stillness.
So we don’t force silence. We offer presence.
Here’s a practice I call The Sacred Sit: Meditation for Emotional Presence (5 minutes to begin with):
🔮 The sacred sit ritual (5-Minute guided version)
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Sit in a safe space. Cross-legged, in bed, or on a chair. Light a candle if you can.
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Place one hand on your chest, one on your belly.Say: “I am safe to feel.”
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Close your eyes. Breathe.Inhale 4 counts. Hold 2. Exhale 6 counts. Repeat.
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Ask inwardly:“What emotion needs to speak right now?”Don’t think. Just feel.
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When an emotion rises—fear, sadness, rage—name it. Out loud if you can.Say: “I see you. I honour you. You’re allowed to be here.”
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Sit for two more minutes with that emotion. Let it unfold—without fixing it.
Then open your eyes and ask yourself:
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What shifted?
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What softened?
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What did I survive just by sitting with it?
This is the meditation that rewires. Not because it numbs—but because it witnesses.
💡 Why this works (Especially for Gen Z & millennial women)
But what if your real glow-up began in the moment you stopped pretending you were okay?
Young women today are carrying lifetimes of unseen pain:
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Family pressure: To be perfect daughters, while silencing rage.
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Heartbreak: From partners who ghost, gaslight, or glorify detachment.
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Spiritual hunger: In a world that only values achievement.
Please read this deeply healing reflection on how the journey from invisible to invincible begins with being seen—even by yourself. It’s especially for those who have spent their lives waiting for someone—anyone—to notice their inner war.
💬 For the silent strugglers
Because here, you are finally being seen.
🩹 What trauma stories are you carrying without realising it?
Let me ask you something gentle, but honest:
For many of us, the answer is: “I don’t remember.”
That’s because we’ve been taught to carry our pain like it’s personality. To call our trauma “just the way I am.” To survive, not heal.
But what if I told you that much of what’s blocking you right now—your procrastination, your fear of love, your inability to rest, your urge to overachieve—isn’t who you are… it’s a trauma story you’ve mistaken for identity.
These stories live quietly inside us:
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“If I stop working, I’ll become irrelevant.”
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“If I let them in, they’ll leave.”
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“If I shine too brightly, they’ll resent me.”
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“If I fail, I’ll confirm I’m worthless.”
These aren’t small things. They’re emotional fractures—tiny cracks that widened over time, until your entire being felt like it might collapse under the weight of silence.
But they are not you.
Let me say that again:
Your trauma is not your identity.
It’s your invitation.
An invitation to come home to yourself.
Start with this:
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“I don’t have to pretend anymore.”
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“What happened to me wasn’t fair, but healing is my right.”
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“I can be soft again. I can trust again. I can be free.”
There’s a story that I carry with me from a 24-year-old reader named Nishtha. She once messaged me saying, “I don’t think I’ve ever actually been loved. I’ve just been tolerated.” That sentence hit me like lightning. Because it’s not uncommon—it’s epidemic. And until we name that pain, it keeps rewriting our life.
She began journaling her story for 7 days. Not editing. Just writing. By day seven, she burned the pages and planted a basil plant in their place. Her words were buried—but her healing bloomed.
If you’re not sure where to begin, read this raw and moving piece on what it means to move from being invisible to truly being seen. It’s not just an article—it’s a mirror.
Because the hardest stories to release… are the ones we never knew we were still telling.
🧷 Trauma stories you might be carrying:
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“I always have to fix everything.”
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“I’m too sensitive to be loved.”
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“I need to be strong, or I’ll be abandoned.”
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“My value comes from what I produce, not who I am.”
Do any of these feel familiar? If even one made your stomach clench—you’re not alone.
And you don’t have to carry it anymore.
💬 Soul prompt
And if you’re here—reading this far—you already are.
👗What does your closet say about your inner state?
I want you to try something.
Stand in front of your closet—not to pick an outfit, but to read your soul.
Because here’s the truth: your wardrobe is a mirror. Not of fashion, but of emotional frequency.
That tight dress you haven’t worn in years? Maybe it’s not about the size—it’s about the identity you attached to it. That corporate suit you never throw out? Maybe it’s still whispering, “You’ll need me again when you're worthy.” That stack of jeans from college? Perhaps they belong to a version of you who laughed louder, loved braver.
Closets are time capsules. Emotional ones.
And just like our homes, our clothes often carry the energy of who we thought we had to be—not who we truly are.
For many, especially young women and survivors of emotional neglect, the closet becomes a battleground. One shelf screams expectations. Another hums of compromise. A hanger still mourns the relationship you lost, the job you left, or the body you’re still learning to love.
I once worked with a 22-year-old artist named Kriti. Her wardrobe was full of neutrals, oversized jackets, and hand-me-downs. Nothing wrong with any of that—until she whispered, “I don’t feel seen in anything I wear.” She’d spent years choosing clothes that helped her blend in. Safe from judgment. But also… invisible.
This isn’t rare.
Because unseen children often become invisible adults—wearing survival more than style.
And that’s where the healing begins.
You might resonate with this powerful piece on the journey from starved love to healing from emotional neglect. Read it when you're ready to name the patterns you didn’t ask for but inherited anyway.
🪞 What your closet might be saying
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“I miss the version of me who dared.”
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“I’ve been hiding for too long.”
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“I don’t know what it feels like to be adorned with love.”
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“I want to be chosen—starting with myself.”
Closets aren’t just places where we store fabric. They’re emotional archives.
So let’s begin to transform them into sacred wardrobes—reflections of who we’re becoming, not just what we’re surviving.
✨ Try this: Closet energy check-in
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Pull out five random items.
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For each, ask:
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Who bought this?
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Who was I when I wore this last?
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Does this align with how I want to feel now?
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You’ll be surprised how much pain (or joy) is stitched into your sleeves.
And if something no longer feels like love? Bless it. Thank it. Let it go.
Say aloud:
“You helped me when I didn’t know who I was.
I honour that. And I’m ready now, to wear truth.”
Because healing doesn’t always start with a therapy session. Sometimes, it starts with clearing a hanger.
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🌈Can your clothes affect your aura?
Not just the colour, or fabric—but the memory, the emotion, the why behind the wear.
These aren’t just clothes. These are energetic signatures.
Your aura—a subtle field of energy surrounding your body—is porous. It absorbs and reflects energy all day long. The clothes you wear act like filters. They can either amplify your clarity, or deepen your confusion.
And most people are walking around dressed in emotional static, wondering why they feel off.
👁️ Let’s talk chakras and colour harmony
You’ve likely heard of chakras. But have you ever dressed intentionally to support one?
Here’s a spiritual styling guide you can come back to any time:
| Chakra | Colour | Intention | Ideal For |
|---|---|---|---|
| Root (Muladhara) | Red, Earth Tones | Grounding, stability | Moving through fear, anchoring |
| Sacral (Svadhisthana) | Orange | Creativity, sensuality | Expressing self, emotional healing |
| Solar Plexus (Manipura) | Yellow | Confidence, self-worth | Big decisions, visibility |
| Heart (Anahata) | Green, Pink | Compassion, forgiveness | Softness, relationship healing |
| Throat (Vishuddha) | Blue | Truth, communication | Public speaking, clarity |
| Third Eye (Ajna) | Indigo | Intuition, insight | Meditation, planning |
| Crown (Sahasrara) | Violet, White | Divinity, detachment | Prayer, spiritual guidance |
It’ll change everything.
✋🏽 Why this matters for those who feel unseen
And if you've spent your life dressing to please others, or hide trauma, or “look strong” while feeling broken—please, pause. Take a day to wear something that feels like softness. Light. Freedom.
🕯️ Ritual: Aura activation through dressing
Each morning, before picking your outfit, ask:
“What does my inner child want to feel today?”
“What colour helps me embody safety?”
“What if I dressed not for who I have to be—but who I am becoming?”
Try this for 3 days. Then journal how you felt in your body, your breath, and your interactions. You’ll be stunned how different your energy feels.
📖 Healing reflection
If this question moved something inside you, take time to explore this healing essay about emotional neglect and the journey toward starved love. Because sometimes, the path to being seen starts with finally dressing like you deserve to be.
💬 Comment
What colour do you avoid wearing—and why? Could that colour hold a part of your healing?
Let us know in the comments. Sometimes, what we resist is where the light lives.
🧥How can you spiritually align your wardrobe?
There’s a moment that comes when you open your closet—not with anxiety, not with confusion—but with reverence.
That’s when you know: you’ve spiritually aligned your wardrobe.
💔 The closet as a site of emotional pain
For too long, we’ve carried shame on hangers.
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The pants you keep even though they no longer fit, because letting go feels like defeat.
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The “special occasion” outfit you’ve never worn because deep down, you don’t believe you’re worth celebration.
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The scarf that smells like someone who hurt you… but you tell yourself, “It’s just a scarf.”
But it’s never just a scarf. It’s never just fabric.
🧘🏽♀️ spiritual closet alignment ritual
Ready to begin?
Do this when the house is quiet. When you can cry if you need to. When you can finally feel.
🌕 What you’ll need:
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A white candle
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Incense or calming oil
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A journal
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A mirror
🕊 Step-by-step:
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Light the candle. Stand barefoot in front of your closet.Say: “This is not storage. This is sanctuary.”
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One by one, touch each piece of clothing.Ask:
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“Who was I when I bought this?”
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“Is this helping me feel safe, seen, sovereign?”
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“Am I keeping this out of fear, guilt, or grief?”
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Remove everything that answers 'No.'Not because it’s ugly or old—but because it’s heavy. Because it hurts.
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Place your hand on your heart.Whisper: “I forgive the parts of me that dressed to survive.”
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Replace what remains with intention.Fold with prayer. Hang with purpose. Let every item say: “I carry love.”
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Write this in your journal:“From this day on, I will only wear what feels like freedom.”
And in its place? A new skin. A new self. A new soulward direction.
🌱 For those tied to financial trauma:
And when abundance begins to knock again—and it will—you’ll have already made room.
Please explore this powerful guide on Vastu tips for attracting wealth and financial healing. You’ll learn how to anchor new prosperity not just in your bank account—but in your closet, mirror, and breath.
🧣 Remember this
🧿 Are you wearing other people’s energy?
Let me ask you something wild, but necessary:
Our bodies may wear the clothes—but our energy fields carry the imprint.
This isn’t just about aura theory. It’s ancient spiritual wisdom, woven through Vedic teachings, energy healing, and even modern trauma science. Everything has frequency. And anything worn close to the body—fabric, metal, thread—absorbs emotional residue.
You’ve felt it, haven’t you?
📿 Why this matters more than you think
Let’s say you’ve inherited a coat from a relative. Beautiful, vintage, valuable.
But what if that coat belonged to someone who suffered in silence? What if it carries grief? Or unspoken abuse? Or even just decades of sadness?
Would you still wear it without cleansing it?
You start to see: your wardrobe might be a graveyard of other people’s unresolved emotions.
This isn’t paranoia. It’s energetic responsibility.
🧼 Cleansing ritual: Reclaiming your clothes, reclaiming yourself
Here’s a step-by-step energetic cleanse to liberate your wardrobe:
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Create Sacred space. Burn incense or camphor. Play grounding music.
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Lay out the clothes you suspect carry heavy energy. Be honest. Trust your body’s reaction.
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Use one of these cleansing methods:
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Salt cleanse: Gently sprinkle salt water mist over the item.
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Smoke cleanse: Waft sage, dhoop, or sandalwood smoke over it.
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Sunlight recharge: Leave it out in morning sunlight for 2–3 hours.
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Speak over it:
“Whatever this carried that wasn’t mine, I now return to the earth.This cloth is now light, clear, and aligned with my highest good.” -
Listen to your body. Does it still feel heavy? If so, release it. Some energy simply isn’t yours to redeem.
💬 Why this is especially relevant for young women
Many young women wear what they’re given—emotionally and physically.
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Passed-down sarees from unhappy marriages.
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Clothes bought during abusive relationships.
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Hand-me-downs from parents who never celebrated who they truly were.
You are allowed to choose again.
📖 Must-read: Starved love and emotional neglect
Before you hesitate to let go of something just because it was “given with love,” I invite you to read this piercing story about starved love and the long journey through emotional neglect.
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🪡What’s the energy tag you want to wear tomorrow?
Let’s imagine something.
Because just like a price tag or a brand label, every item in your wardrobe carries an invisible tag—a vibration. An emotional signature. A spiritual echo.
And most of us have been wearing tags we never chose.
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Tag: Not Enough
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Tag: Keep It Together
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Tag: Don’t Shine Too Bright
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Tag: This Will Make Them Stay
But what if you could cut those old tags?
🧷 Let’s sew new energy into our souls
Here are some tags you might try on instead:
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Tag: I Am Enough Even When I’m Quiet
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Tag: Love Does Not Have To Be Earned
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Tag: I Am Safe To Be Seen
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Tag: I Am Not A Past I Didn’t Choose
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Tag: I Shine Gently And Still Am Strong
Because here’s the truth:
The most powerful thing you’ll wear tomorrow isn’t your clothes—it’s your healing.
👁 A message to those who feel unseen
This is your permission.
And maybe—just maybe—it will remind you that you are not too late to be chosen.
🌤 Tomorrow morning, ask yourself:
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“What does my spirit long to feel today?”
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“What version of myself am I ready to embody?”
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“What energy do I deserve to walk into the world with?”
Dress accordingly. Speak accordingly. Love accordingly.
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🌅 You were never meant to carry it all
If you’re still reading, I want to tell you something sacred:
You are the kind of person who stays until the end. Who holds space for healing. Who reads not just with their eyes, but with their heart wide open.
This article wasn’t just about clutter or clothes. It was about the silent grief inside you that’s been asking to be witnessed.
We hold so much. And in this space, you’ve done something miraculous—you’ve started to let go.
So tonight, sit beside your old things. Thank them. Bless them. Then release what was never yours to hold.
🙋🏽♀️ Frequently asked questions
1. What if I feel guilty letting go of items gifted by loved ones?
2. How do I know if emotional clutter is affecting me?
I can’t afford to replace my wardrobe. What do I do?
How often should I declutter spiritually?
Is it okay to keep some sentimental things?
👤Author
Tushar Mangl is a counsellor, vastu expert, and author of I Will Do It and Ardika. He writes on food, books, personal finance, Vastu, and the art of living a balanced life. Blogging at tusharmangl.com since 2006.
“I help unseen souls design lives, spaces, and relationships that heal and elevate—through ancient wisdom, energetic alignment, and grounded action.”
🧭 Note
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Let this post be more than a read—let it be your release. You are seen. You are sacred. And yes—this is your time.
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